Parents get crazy advice. Have you
ever been told that “some babies just don’t sleep”?
That’s so crazy! Babies desperately need sleep, and may in fact need
special help in order to learn sleep skills.
I helped a family of six kids who were not sleeping, and whose mother their
doctor had that her kids just don’t sleep… as if this was a natural and normal
phenomenon! With my gentle sleep coaching, I had all six of her kids
sleeping in about six weeks.
Have you ever been told that your
baby is playing you? Followed by, “So let him cry it out.”
Here’s the reality.
Manipulation is far too complex an
emotion or intention for a baby (that’s more of a teenager thing).
It’s just ‘cause and effect’. Your
baby has figured out that when he does this, you do that. So gently change your
response, and they will change their behaviour. If your baby cries in a
certain way and you come running, they learn to cry in that same way to get you
to come running. Which isn’t a bad thing at all, since they are learning
that they can trust you, depend on you. Your next step should be,
starting at night with bedtime, to gently change how you respond (depending on
the situation) to coax a different behaviour from your child.
It’s not rocket science. It’s behavioural science. It’s always
great to be there for your child, but you don’t have to give them everything
they think they want. My kids want chocolate for breakfast. Yeah, I don’t think
so. But I am definitely going to be giving them breakfast, just not the
one they think they want. Except maybe
on their birthday.
Tracy Spackman is a Trained and Certified
Gentle Sleep Coach specializing in
sleep for alert kids of ages 4 months to 8 years old.
Tracy Spackman
602-524-7610
