Dear Tracy Spackman,
I have every intention of hiring you as soon as my 2 month old is old enough to benefit from sleep training bc my world crumbles when I don't get good sleep BUT I want to make sure I am on the right track now so I don't have to undo any bad habits or play catch up when it's time to sleep train! He is in a rock n play by our bed and wakes up once a night to eat. He does well with this for now but of course the goal is sleeping thru the night in his crib...we try to nap in the crib during the day swaddled but the longest he's gone in there for me is 30 mins. Am I doing or not doing anything that will mess me up come sleep training time?? I want to be your best/easiest client when the time comes ;)
Thanks so much!!
Dear 2 month old Mom,
You should do what helps you respond quickly and get the best sleep yourself. Keeping the baby in your room usually helps you respond faster which usually gets you both back to sleep faster.
Napping in the crib is great unless holding or rocking naps gets you bigger naps. If 30 min is all you get regardless of where he naps, then the crib is fine. Try 60-90 minutes of wake time between naps and 45+ minute naps are great but if that just doesn't happen, done worry about it. You just need more naps.
Everything changes in the 4th months so even if he was a good sleeper before that time, it actually has absolutely no bearing on whether he will be a good sleeper after 4 months. So don't worry about bad habits. It's fine to try putting your baby to bed drowsy but awake, and in the crib, but if those things are a battle, he is telling you he needs more help. More co-regulation to help him cope with out big world.
I'm looking forward to working with you.