Monday, November 30, 2015

Is Night 1 of Sleep Training always awful? Nope. Check this out.

This was the Night 1 experience related in my Facebook Group "Sleep Sisters" by Christine with her 3 year old after developing a better sleep plan:

"Tracy thank you for your group consult last week!! We did night one tonight with my almost 3 year old and it was one hour beginning to end without one tear!! No attitude either, she actually seemed excited to go to bed in her toddler bed which I couldn't believe! We have done all the prep you mentioned and our family meeting was this morning to talk to her about it more in detail. Tonight she kept putting her new lovey to bed next to her tucking him in, asked for her potty to be put in her room, asked for her night light on (I've got to still get one that's not so bright) . She stayed in bed while I did those. . Then hugged lovey, whispered 'don't leave' to me, then went to sleep on her own while I stayed by the bed.. I'm in disbelief, when I tried this without your steps a few weeks ago she screamed for about an hour while I sat next to her and kicked her feet the whole time, it was awful and stressful to sit next to her like that telling her to go to sleep and having her tantrum over and over.. it's night and day implementing your steps! Thank you again, we will see how night 2 goes tomorrow and if she stays asleep tonight. ..thank you thank you thank you, my husband and I have new-found hope that her sleep issues can be resolved."

Now on to Night 2...

Night 2 has the potential to be worse than night one.  This is called an "Extinction Burst", which is a fancy psychological term for "She is going to test you."  It happens about 50% of the time.  Occasionally it happens sometime in the first 2 weeks.  Half the time it doesn't happen at all.

Good luck Christine!

Tracy Spackman
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Friday, November 27, 2015

2 year old bedtime battles

Question:  My 2 year old puts up a fight with me if I put her to bed. If my hubby does it she goes down without a fight. Same with naps. I'm with her more than he is and she prefers me over him most of the time. Hubby is about to take a third shift job so bedtime will be completely up to me. What do I need to do to make things go more smoothly?

Answer:  This may be a power issue. Two year olds start to realize that they are not the center of the universe and that you have relationships outside of them and want more power and control with independence. 

Try making a bedtime book. This give her more power. Make a list of all the things you do at bedtime. Take a photo of her doing it. Snack, teeth, pj, story, kisses, etc. Put them in order and slip them into a photo book and call it your bedtime book. When it's time for your bedtime routine, give her the book and ask her what comes first? She will feel like she is more in charge of her bedtime by following the book and telling you what comes next. 

Tip: This works best when you catch her sleep window and are putting her into her bed before she is yawning and rubbing her eyes. 

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Sleep Coaching Wish List...

Happy Thanksgiving!

Is it too early to make a wish list for Christmas for Black Friday?
Here are some things that may help with sleep coaching:

A cute lamp for a DIY wake up light 


Moon Cocoon sleep sack by Nini & Pumpkin
Buy a moon cocoon

Conair White noise machine from Amazon (cheapest model)
Conair Sound Therapy Sound Machine

Black out blinds (This is just a sample, lots of options)
Bali Room Darkening 2'' Slat Vinyl Blinds - 31'' x 64''

Sanda Boyton's book "The going to bed book" 

A sleep consultation with Tracy Spackman 

Tracy Spackman 602-524-7610
Certified Gentle Sleep Coach

Gentle Sleep Coaching - Teaching you how to get your kids to sleep.