I was able to make the switch by the time my older children were at the age 10 or 11 years old. Before that, bringing them to bed was the beginning part of some sweet family rituals that prepare them for life success.
For my 2 youngest boys, I helped them brush their teeth and then we moved on to me reminding them to brush their teeth. I started reading them stories and now, after tucking them in, they read for a short while until it's lights out time. If I try sending them to bed, they just play, fool around and make a mess.
I remember an episode of Super Nanny I happen to see and she told that mom she was not helping the situation. The program showed a video of the mom yelling at the kids to go to bed while she watched TV. Over and over again. Of course the kids didn't listen. Super Nanny suggested she "take" them to bed instead. It's a great suggestion for all of us.
Check ups will still be needed after you pass this milestone but it really is fantastic to send them to bed when they are old enough to do it all themselves but it comes after many years of doing it together.
Tracy Spackman is a Certified Gentle Sleep Coach in Phoenix Arizona. Join her Gentle Sleep Support Facebook Group Called "Sleep Sister-Get Quiet Nights"
Certified Gentle Sleep Coach